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What do you do?
Step 1: What Would You Do?
There is often more than one good answer. Pick one and see what happens.
Late at night
You have written a message that says exactly what you think of somebody. Your thumb is over send.
What do you do?
Step 2: What That Was
The name for what you just worked out.
Not deciding is a decision. It has results like any other, and it usually picks the default without you.
How hard is it to undo?
Choosing a film is reversible; you can turn it off. Sending a message is not. Spend your thinking on the ones you cannot take back.
Good decision, bad result
You can decide well and it still goes wrong. Judge the decision by what you knew at the time, not by how it turned out.
Step 3: Try It
These ones do have right answers.
How Much Thinking Does It Deserve?
Sort by how hard each one is to undo.
Which of these can you take back?
Tap something to move it.
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Step 4: Quick Check
Two questions, then you are done.
Question 1 of 1
You made a careful choice and it went badly. Was it a bad decision?
Step 5: Your Life Mission
Something to do away from the screen. Nobody is checking.
Sort tomorrow’s choices
- Tomorrow, notice three decisions you make.
- Label each one: easy to undo, or not.
- Give the undoable ones ten times the thought and the others ten seconds.
Why: Most people spend their thinking in exactly the wrong place — agonising over lunch and firing off messages.
Step 6: What You Learned
- Not deciding is deciding, and it usually picks the default.
- Spend your thinking on the choices you cannot undo.
- A good decision can still turn out badly.
For the grown-up
The reversible-versus-not distinction is the single most useful decision tool at this age, because adolescents systematically over-deliberate small choices and under-deliberate permanent ones — especially online, where the irreversible ones are the fastest to make.
Separating decision quality from outcome quality is worth defending in your own house. A child punished for a reasonable choice that went wrong learns to avoid decisions, not to make better ones.
If your child is stuck on something reversible, "you can change your mind on Thursday" often unsticks it faster than any amount of analysis.