In the playground
You see one child take a ball from another and run off with it. The second child is upset.
What do you do?
Step 1: What Would You Do?
There is often more than one good answer. Pick one and see what happens.
At home
Your brother says you never let him choose what to watch. You think you let him choose loads.
What do you do?
Step 2: What That Was
The name for what you just worked out.
Two people can watch the same thing and describe it differently. Usually neither is lying. They saw different parts of it.
You did not see the start
You often arrive in the middle. The person who was there from the beginning knows something you do not.
Both can be honest
"They pushed me" and "I was trying to get past" can both be true accounts of one moment.
Step 3: Try It
These ones do have right answers.
Who Knows What?
Match each person to the thing only they could know.
Two children collided in the corridor. Who knows which fact?
Tap a card on the left to start.
Step 4: Somewhere Else
Same thinking. Different situation.
Somewhere else
You read that a football match was decided by a terrible refereeing decision. The report was written by a fan of the losing team.
What is worth remembering?
Step 5: Quick Check
Two questions, then you are done.
Question 1 of 1
Your friend says a game was unfair. You thought it was fine. What is the most useful thing to say?
Step 6: Your Life Mission
Something to do away from the screen. Nobody is checking.
Tell it from the other side
- Think of a disagreement you had this week.
- Describe what happened as if you were the other person.
- Say one thing they could see that you could not.
Why: Telling it in their voice is much harder than agreeing they have a point, and it is the part that actually changes your mind.
Step 7: What You Learned
- Two honest people can describe one event differently.
- Ask what the other person saw before deciding who is right.
For the grown-up
Sibling and playground disputes are the natural practice ground, and the useful adult move is to take both accounts fully before responding to either. Children who expect to be heard argue less, not more.
This is not the same as "everyone is equally right". Some accounts are wrong on facts. The lesson is about gathering before judging, not about abandoning judgement.
A good question to keep in the house is "what did you see first?" — it separates what someone witnessed from what they concluded, which children (and adults) blend together constantly.